Read today on the internet :
What is the best way to make new friends ?
Most frequent answer : Meet up . Someone even said it was a godsend. These people wrote from the U.S so they probably had a different experience.
I had tried Urbeez in Europe and I had a good time attending concerts, exhibitions , movies. It did not work all the times – bars don’t wor for me. You probably have to drink alcohol to enjoy it. Overall, a good experience and I would recommend it.
Then in Montreal, I could not find it. That was a first hint, I suppose but I simply assumed it was less popular in Canada. I ended trying Meet Up. S.M.O.G
Reminder : you meet people who have the same interest as you. This.cannot.go.wrong.
I love cinema. I registered in a “Movie” group , waited for the next meeting over a film, and got ready for someone to refer to Elia Kazan , Orson Welles or at least Scorsese.
I went to the cinema and saw a bunch of people around an aged man- he was the organizer of the Meet Up. I just had time so say hello. It was already time for the movie to start so everyone spread out and reached for a seat. I can’t remember what the movie was, since it did not really interest me. What I do remember was after the movie: they all vanished. OK, I wasn’t quick enough; better luck next time.
Next “movie Meet up”. This time I tried to spot better who was in the group and sat not too far from them. End of the film: everybody rushed back home. Some had “important things to do”- on a Friday night. Other did not even talk and just went away
The same thing happened on my third attempt.Everyone spread . I ended up with a nice,grey-haired lady who politely said that she, too, had to come back home but offered to walk with me to the subway. She said dhe did not really enjoy the film, felt it was more targeted at young guys. I agreed.
The same night I opened my laptop and it was still on the Meet Up page and there I saw comments about the event . One was from the grey-haired lady: “Great movie, as usual. I had a great time with you all, can’t wait for the next event”. All comments were positive, whether they talked about the movie or the event on the whole.
I felt I was in the Twilight Zone. Of course, they were lying. But, why ?
Goosebumps. I don’t wanna know. Leave it.
In parallel, I attended other groups : creative writing with Pomodoro method; 25-35 singles, etc.Same scenario with minor variations.
- Creative writing : write, sip a drink , awkward conversation and go
- Drums : drumming, paying and go ,etc.
And everyone seemed OK about it.
No, no, no. Don’t give me the “it’s cultural” which is more and more used as an excuse to be rude, weird or both. Why would people bother to confirm they are attending an event, show up, grab coffee and go? How can you come to a meet up in order not to meet people? Or is it all about pretending. OK, that can be cultural. Sadly, though.
If that is the rule, I am am afraid I am awfully bad at it.